Gendered Frameworks

My wife and I recently had a 'disagreement' and we had the following imagined conversation afterward to explain our points of view.

She: This sweater is itchy.
Me: You can take it off if you want but I don't think it's the sweater because the material is designed to not be itchy.
She: It's not very helpful when you just disagree with me.
Me: But it is helpful to contribute salient and relevant facts.
She: Except that people generally don't want help solving things; they can solve things on their own and if they need help with that they usually ask specifically for some kind of 'solving help'. What they really want normally is supportive help.
Me: Supportive help? With a sweater? I can understand Supportive help with the death of a loved one, but with an itchy sweater?
She: Yes, even with little things like with itchy sweaters.
Me: But that's the most obnoxious and crazy thing I've ever heard, look if--
She: (Looks meaningfully at me.)
Me: Yes, Dear.

For the record I do not believe men and women are from different planets, or even simply communicate as if they are from different planets. I might accept men and women may occasionally demonstrate sociologically statistically significant (if only slightly so) different motivations that could be accounted for by evolutionary theory - but who cares, because we are ninety-nine percent more alike in our common humanity than we are different (i.e. neither sex or gender are aliens to the other, see also the human biological meaning matrix for some real basic elemental and meaningful gender sameness).

Thus, I rather see the difference here as one of frameworks, one framework being more compact (hers) where often differences (facts) are seen but ignored because they not experientially meaningful (see worth), the other framework being more differentiated (mine) where often not very meaningful non-experienced differences are observed, catalogued and filed away for future problem solving reference. And naturally people can only listen to the symbols they understand, so she wouldn't 'hear' the 'help' I was giving her, and I wouldn't 'hear' her request for 'support'. (Actually seeing frameworks in action like this, or inaction as the case may be, is so fascinating.)

I also think this is why educating people, of any gender (race, age, creed, etc.), against their will is never very efficacious; people need a certain amount of experiential meaning to 'relate', and that certain amount will vary person to person as their frameworks differ. Every framework has strengths and weaknesses, even blind spots, but this seems as if it is something all frameworks have in common.