The Maintenance of Loyalty

And how important the interior compass is, for many uxorious men the power dynamic of their relationship is not just the way they show their love and feel their partner’s love, it is not only the context or functional symbol of love, it becomes what love is to them. Thus they attune themselves to this power dynamic rather than to the love it may represent.

Yet a partner may have a slightly different set of symbols for love in the relationship, and without communication and the differentiation of the internal compass, an absence or lack of the symbol they do understand is simply perceived and experienced as an absence of love itself. Then in the perceived vacuum they inevitably search for filler, perhaps porn, perhaps an affair, perhaps something else, but they are sidetracked from the course of love in their relationship; loyalty is not maintained.

And there are always problems and obstacles like these in any relationship; what if you had a long distance relationship and your love were divided by an ocean? My wife watches a television program in which the lead character has a very supportive husband. He is always one hundred percent behind her, and while neither the character, the program, or much of television is very believable, my wife always appreciates the demonstration of loyalty. Loyalty. How does one, no matter the obstacles, maintain loyalty, maintain focus on the love in their relationship?

It is no easy thing, but I think by the constant attunement to love, by the constant orientation of the interior compass upon love, and not simply upon the symbols of love, that a lover’s loyalty is maintained.