Whence Cometh the Meaning

I found myself explaining today how the process of effective communication, the process of being understood by someone whose understanding I value (most often my wife), is often more significant and meaningful to me than the resulting decision, agreement, action, etc. Many times I won't get what I want, or my suggestion isn't acted upon, yet I'll feel perfectly happy if only I feel I have been understood. Somehow effective symbolization between two people, understanding communication between two interiors, is all I need - but I don’t understand why.

I have mentioned before how I am fascinated by how our interior symbols and framework filter and fashion our world without our knowing or understanding it. Perhaps we have opted for a particular religion, ideology, framework that gives coherence to our past experience, and in doing so shapes our future actions. We even have an assumed framework until we are old enough to choose one, and whether we consciously choose or not, our framework may affect things we are unconscious and unaware of.

I said recently meaning might cohere through the lens of an authoritative framework, or the authority of a framework might arise wherever meaning is found; but it occurs to me we occasionally experience more meaning than our framework can handle. When we have such an ineffable experience, the framework, religion, philosophy, ideology must change to accommodate the new meaning from the new experience. Thus I must rather doubt all meaning comes from the coherence of the framework.

Now it occurs to me if the framework is merely a tool, or set of tools - a toolbox, to help one understand experience symbols, then perhaps it is understandable we might occasionally have an experience our framework tool box is unable to handle. Then we need a new tool, and occasionally in order to maintain coherence of our framework toolbox we need to get rid of some tools or get more tools, sometimes we get so many new tools we might say it's an entirely different framework (tool box) afterward.

Yet the meaning before the framework, that comes from somewhere, and I wonder if this effective symbolization between two people, the understanding and communication between two interiors, might somehow afford me a clue.