We all have a limited resource of self, a finite amount of time and energy that I believe more likely to vary by how we spend it than by the total amounts we each have. It's almost a proverb how new couples spend less of themselves upon their older social relations, but I wonder if uxorious men are simply more disposed, predisposed, towards having intensely intimate relationships but less contact with other people overall, whereas other people might tend towards having fewer intimate relationships and more contact with people overall.
On one hand, I myself have never been a very social person, never so much a matter of choice as just who I am, and so I've never really felt any lack in circle friends, extended family or even acquaintances, before or after I after I dedicated myself to my wife. It isn't only as if having more but less intimate relationships just 'wasn't my flavor', it's more as if it tasted lackluster to me, though surely I had nothing to compare their luster to save with what I wanted and desired.
Yet I know everyone is different and different isn't wrong; perhaps I've simply attached more internal meaning and significance, more interior worth, to intimacy than to something different. Or perhaps it's more complex than this: perhaps people experience significantly different interior satisfaction by having either more relations with less intimacy or fewer relations with more intimacy; but I have no idea how anyone would ever discover such a thing or whether it has any uxorious correlation.
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